Actress-turned-evangelist Tonto Dikeh has advised Christian men to be more intentional when pursuing women for marriage, saying spiritual declarations should never replace genuine effort during courtship.
In a video shared online, Tonto questioned why some church brothers believe that church sisters do not deserve thoughtful gifts, intentional gestures, and meaningful expressions of love while dating.
According to her, telling a woman that “God said you are my wife” is not enough to build a healthy relationship and should not be used as a substitute for commitment and emotional investment.
“This is a very funny topic, but it is one that we actually need to discuss. So, if you are a brother in the Lord, come forward; this is for you,” she said.
She continued:
“Why do church brothers think church sisters don’t require gifts? What about this low-effort thing you put into wooing or pursuing a woman? Church brothers would say, ‘God sent me to you,’ and blah, blah.
“God can send you, but using spiritual language to mask emotional laziness is a distortion of God’s character. Saying, ‘God told me you are my wife,’ is not an excuse to bypass intentionality and practical effort.”
Tonto’s remarks have sparked conversations on social media, with many people sharing different opinions on the role of faith, romance, and intentionality in Christian courtship.
